I offer, for your consideration a message I recieved a few days ago. Important information has been withheld to protect privacy. A great man (I think it was Shatner. Shatner rules) once said “I fear the capacity of an individual to justify his or her actions will forever amaze me.”
*pauses to let that sink in*
The message I sent to this individual, as I have done often in the past, was one of comfort and a little advice. I’ve been thinking about this for a while. Note: I address this not only to the individual in question, but to everyone who has ever been in a relationship. Why does everybody, not just the individual in question, refuse to take responsibility for their actions? Why is it always someone elses fault that something went wrong in a relationship or in life? Am I really so evil, that I helped someone else realize how they really felt–or at least helped them find the gate leading to the path they had so desperately been trying to find? Wouldn’t it be far more beneficial to attempt to focus on why the relationship didn’t work, and therefore try to fix whatever fault may have been present?
Is “therefore” spelled with an “e”…?
Being engaged for a year and a half helped me to realize how to act–and more importantly, how not to act–in a relationship. It was a hard lesson to learn, but I’m glad I did. I wish, however, that more people would be willing to take me at my word, rather than having to “learn the hard way,” as I did. Through that hurt, I realized how I knew I was truly in love.
You know you are really in love when you are willing to give the One thing you love the most, more than anything else in the entire world, up for that person. Secondly, you know you are in love when you are willing to let that person go, in hopes they find someone who can treat them better than you. As far as the latter was concerned, I didn’t leave her, but I let her go and asked God to send her someone who could have been better for her. (Granted, I didn’t think it would have been possible, but that’s not the point) And as far as the former is concerned, if you ever have to give up that One thing, then you know, without a doubt, that your significant other does not love you.
To the individual in question, and the rest of you as well, I can’t say more than I already have. I don’t force my opinion on people; it’s up to you to ask me.
Don’t learn the hard way. It’s not pleasent.

Trust me.